Friday, January 20, 2012
Motorcycles & vaginas
I would never give anyone motorcyle advice.
I don't own a motorcycle, nor have I ever driven one. I have, however, ridden on a few.
But having ridden shotgun (does this apply to riding passenger on motorcyles too?) a time or two does not make me an expert. If I started spouting out my opinion on how to take care of your motorcycle, you would tell me to shut-the-front-door. And you'd have every right, because unless I owned a motorcycle myself, I really can't know what I'm talking about.
So, to all the men out there, please keep your opinions on child birth to yourself. You do not have a vagina. Sure, you may have ridden one a time or two, but until you actually have one, you really have no idea.
A man I know posted a link to an article about the pros and cons of using epidurals during child birth. He's a nice guy, and I know his intentions weren't malicious (his wife is pregnant). But I just couldn't help myself to reply "So I take it when you get pregnant, you will not use an epidural." Because c'mon guy, how can you truly have an opinion on natural child birth vs. medicated child birth if you NEVER HAVE TO GO THROUGH CHILD BIRTH!
Heck, I know quite a few women who have said they wouldn't use drugs when they gave birth, but once they were a few centimeters dilated and the waves of contractions were coming right on top of each other after hours and hours of labor, they changed their tune. I just don't think anyone, man or woman, knows what they'll do until they get there.
And honestly, I don't even have much opinion on the subject myself. Yes, I have a vagina, but I had one pregnancy and my doctor started preparing me for my planned c-section right about the same time I found out I was having twins. To me, my opinion is: You know your pain threshold. You know whether you like to tough out sicknesses or take the meds. You know YOUR body. If you want the epidural, get the freaking epidural. If you'd rather go au natural, then bonne chance ma soeur. À chacun son goût.
But remember this, you don't get a medal for not using drugs. At the end of it all, you just get a baby, just like every other women...vaginal or c-section, epidural or sans epidural...the result is the same. Do what you need to do to get that baby out safely and into your arms. And let other mothers worry about their own vaginas.