Tuesday, May 17, 2011

3 weeks late

I'm late.

Three weeks late.

I'm not the most regular ever, at least not one of those exactly 28 days people.  More like 26-30 days, give or take a day.  But it's been almost 7 weeks since my last period.

I don't have any pregnancy symptoms, but I took a test last week just to be sure.  Negative.  Whew!

But a week has passed.  Nothing.

I called my OBGYN today to make sure I shouldn't be too worried about the truant menses (images of cervical cancer and endometriosis were flashing in my head), and he said as long as I have no other symptoms (pain, bloating, etc) that I shouldn't worry.  In fact, he offered to write me a prescription for a med to kick start my stalled out cycle if it doesn't come in about a week.  He said these things just happen sometimes.

This whole episode just got me thinking about how much I don't want another baby.

It took me a long time to come to this definitive decision.  The first year or two after Thing 1 and Thing 2 were born, I still had small secret dreams of trying one more time for a little She-Thing.  Superman thought I was bonkers.  And he constantly reminded me of the months of bedrest to try and deter my thoughts.  But I just couldn't shake my desire to hold a little pink bundle of joy.

Fast forward a few years.

#1 Thing 1 and 2 are so independent.  They can dress themselves, feed themselves, entertain themselves, and are potty trained.  It is so nice to be in this advanced toddler stage, where all we really have to do is play and have fun with our little imps!  I really cannot fathom going back to a baby that is fully and wholly dependent on us for everything.  Blah!

#2 Superman is back at work now.  We were incredibly lucky that things worked out during those first three years with the boys to have him be able to stay at home with them, but after three years, he was really ready to get back in the classroom.  And it would break my heart to have to put a baby in full time daycare.  I just couldn't do it.

#3 Kids are freaking expensive!  I honestly do not understand how families in similar financial groups as us have 3, 4, 5 kids!  Do they have cars?  Do they eat?

So in summary...babies are cute.  But they are a lot of work, responsibility, and cost a lot of money.  If we were rich, and money were no object, and I could afford to stay home, maybe I would still be pining away for something sugar and spice and everything nice.  But for right now...I am very content with my frogs and snails and puppy dog tails.

2 comments:

  1. Yea, take it from someone who did have three. :( (sorry for the sad face.) But it is freakin expensive!! I did have at one time all three of them in diapers, OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! that was a complete mess to say the least. And im not being literal, well a little bit i guess. lol. No, its nice to have girls, but I wouldve rather had all boys honestly. Do you remember having girlsfriends? Ummm......need I say more??? They are moody, and emotional, and they tend to whine ALOT!!! okay so look really beautiful in dresses, thats about it. lol. Have fun with your boys with the dumptrucks and getting dirty. I miss it!!!!!! :)

    But really, I wouldnt trade it for anything in the world tho......except for the "doing the hair part". UGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!! What a mess!! Taryn wont let me touch it half the time, so its a rat's nest and then we have to wash it and we have like 3 mins to do so before school......does the list have to go on?????

    no, i love my girls, but you have the best in your boys, they will always be mommas boys, but in the good way, not in the bad dependant way!!

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  2. I will say...my first choice combo when I found out we were having twins was boy/girl. Two boys was my second choice. Having two girls was dead last! I don't know how I would have dealt with two teenage mini-mes! Cause you are right, most teenage girls are pains in the you know what. But, they grow out of it, and most girls have great relationships with their moms as adults, just remember that when they are whining and being moody. Do you watch Modern Family? This week was a good episode about this exact issue.

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